- Understand that not everyone perceives the world the way that you do and life would be boring if people all had similar thoughts.
- When you’re being cynical, are you also being judgmental?
- When you find yourself feeling cynical, make sure that you’re not admonishing yourself at the same time.
- When you’re feeling cynical, are you being controlling and wanting others to behave differently?
- Open to the humor that can often be found in a cynical statement.
- Cynicism isn’t about “bad,” and enthusiasm isn’t about “good.”
- Admit that sometimes it feels good to be cynical, almost like an ego boost, as if others are wrong, while you are right.
- When it comes to moving towards enthusiasm, take small steps. For example, get in touch with the good feelings with which you are already familiar, such as stepping into a warm bath.
- Meditate and focus on your breathing. Observe how thoughts of cynicism and enthusiasm come and go.
- Notice your attitude when you first open your eyes each morning. Where are you in the range from cynicism to enthusiasm? Are you able to move from ugh to ahh?
I tweeted my CalmUp® “How can I…” question of the day:
How can I hang on to this feeling?
It was Friday, and I woke up feeling great—enthusiastic, peaceful, and joyful. Those feelings were short-lived.
ANNOYED. A week ago Friday, I went to the Social Security Office to address a concern about possible identity theft. Seeing a full house, I asked the guard about how long I could expect to wait. After the anticipated wait time of 30–45 minutes, I chose to leave. I had already rescheduled one appointment, and I didn’t want to miss another.
FRUSTRATED. I left the building with a phone number to call the Social Security Office and schedule my next appointment so that I wouldn’t have to wait in line again. I placed the call the following Friday. Due to their long wait time, I requested a call back. When I received the call, I responded according to their computerized prompts, and the system hung up on me. Great.
ANGRY. After three phone calls, I finally got to speak with a live person and was told that I wouldn’t be able to schedule an appointment, since my issue didn’t fit one of their primary topics. I could, however, return to the Social Security Office and wait in line. Are you kidding me?
I noticed the other day that one of my mentors wrote a newsletter this month with the same title. Is this a coincidence? I considered coming up with a new topic and title. Wait, I told myself, maybe it’s an important enough message to be told in more than one way.
I got the idea to write about the topic after my husband heard my last interview of “Regular Folks With a Noteworthy Story” and told me that I sounded too serious and needed to “lighten up.” My interpretation is that I need to laugh more, I could use more fun in my life, and I ought to mellow out. Yes, I had to admit that “lighten up” was good advice.
How can I lighten up?
Here comes full disclosure… On more than one occasion, even prior to my husband’s recommendation, I’ve questioned on the CalmUp® Journey how I could lighten up a bit. Here are a handful of suggestions I’ve integrated:
• Schedule fun first
• Spend more time in the hot tub
• Take more naps
• When your kid asks you to go sledding, say yes