I recently heard from a member of our CalmUp® community, Lionel Fisher. He shared about his health condition and not having much time left to live. Similar to the genuine conversations shared during his March and April 2013 interviews (Click here for Noteworthy Stories), this conversation was very real.
Lionel remarked that being near death made him realize what a “self-absorbed asshole” he had been and how he lost friends over the most stupid reasons. Needless to say, he doesn’t have the corner on stupid behavior.
“Lionel,” I said, “We’re all self-absorbed assholes. We’ve all done what you’re describing.”
While currently on hospice, Lionel is having important conversations. He discovered that the two most important words are too late. For instance, we say or do hurtful things and then it becomes
- Too late to make amends
- Too late to enjoy one another’s company
- Too late to speak from the heart
I feel thankful that my dad introduced me to Lionel. Along with his genuineness, another trait I admire about Lionel is his ability to be keenly insightful. At 82-years-old, his wisdom transcends protocol, trends, and social mores. Continue reading...
In the same way that I shared the letter to my son last month, my mother gave permission to share her birthday letter too. I doubt that you’ll enjoy it as much as she did—my hope is that it will motivate you to express some reasons of your own.
Dear Mom, Continue reading...
- All you do comes from a place of love
- You continually strive to be the best possible version of yourself
- You do a good job setting limits
- You’re always there for me and others too
- You’re a serious survivor
- You’ve taught me about God for as long as I can remember
- You keep good books on your bookshelves
- You stressed the importance of education
- You’ve been a good role model for taking care of yourself
- You always showed respect to your parents
- You know how to choose a great partner
- You’re beautiful (and yes, magnificent too)
- You made it to 75!
- You never stop learning
- You exercise and take care of yourself
- You appreciate beauty
- You love music
- You love butterflies
- You strive for the best
I’m remembering part of a story, the important part, which I’d like to pass on. A major attack had just occurred on a people. An eminent peace leader had been giving a talk when they were interrupted with the news about the attack. The leader asked everyone in the room to pray for the people—the attackers!
I thought of this story recently when a friend wrote to me about a tragedy that had just taken place in her small town. An eighth-grade boy was showing the dad’s gun to his older brother, a high school senior, who was accidentally shot and killed. A few days earlier, another friend shared with me the recent suicide of her friend’s fiancé. These events taking place before the holidays were heavy in my heart.
My intention is not to re-traumatize. My only purpose in writing about these events is to remind myself of the power of prayer this holiday season. It doesn’t take much effort to send a prayer to victims and family members of those whom we feel compassion. However, it can take serious conscious effort to send a prayer to the perpetrator of any event. Continue reading...